Last weekend Annette and I went to the Indigo Girls concert at the Albuquerque Zoo with Kate. Had I seen them before. Yeah, sure. I saw them exactly 10 years ago at The Backyard in Austin. Once we got there, we spread out with blankets and food, other friends and chatted under the beautiful cottonwoods, an even more beautiful Albuquerque sky. The music was almost tangential. I haven't bought an Indigo Girls CD since Shaming of the Sun so every time they said this is a new song Annette and I looked at each other blankly, still it was a breathtaking night.
They did sing the standards. As the show was winding down, and people were packing up their chairs and ice chests they went into "Closer to Fine," "Galileo." It's funny, but I was faraway from Albuquerque in that moment. The first time I heard the Indigo Girls it was not summer. It was a bitterly cold winter day. The kind of winter day the Texas Panhandle doesn't get anymore. Perhaps it's an exaggeration to suspect global warming, but even 16 years ago I suspected global warming as the editor of my high school newspaper. I had to chip the ice off the windshield of my VW Beatle. It wouldn't start, so I called my best friend Shea for a ride to school. He pulled up in his ice blue Cutlass. The heater was on, the seats were a deeper blue and plush. When I opened the door to get in I was overwhelmed by the heat and the combined scent of Calvin Klein's Obsession and hair product. No big deal. We needed to get to school. Shea was playing a new tape -- Indigo Girls' Rites of Passage. He fixated on "Romeo and Juliet." We were both broken-hearted that morning. He was still not over his ex-girlfriend Marcy. I was still reeling over my latest break-up with Jeremiah. "Listen to this, Patti. Listen to this." We sat in the school parking lot. The car idling. Ice sliding in plates down the back window. "Listen, do you hear this line where she says. 'I keep bare, bare company. Man, I really feel that sometimes.'"
We listened to that tape the rest of that school year. It sustained us on late night drives to Denny's where we would sit across from each other and talk across chocolate milkshakes about boys, girls and loneliness. Summer began and we still listened to "Romeo and Juliet." We infused our summer with other music, specifically Tori Amos' Little Earthquakes, but always we kept the "bare company" of each other.
I can't count the number of times I showed up at his house that summer of Little Earthquakes and Rites of Passage. He assured me Jeremiah would eventually realize he loved only me. I told him there would not only be a girl but an entire town who understood his music, his fashion sense, his love of Dungeons of Dragons. The summer began with Dungeons and Dragons. We met at his house to play this game I didn't really get, even though I loved the cartoons when I was a kid. I always wanted to be Sheila (the girl who could turn invisible). Shea and Jeremiah weren't talking anymore. Shea had broken up with another girlfriend and was in summer school. We had spent a long night together listening to music, sitting at his mom's kitchen table and I went home.
Tornadoes came the next day. I stood at the kitchen window with my little brother. He hadn't even started kindergarten yet. The air was heavy, still. It was late afternoon. Mom wasn't home from work yet. I had just cleaned the kitchen. We were listening to Another Side of Bob Dylan. Adrian was only five, but he could sing all of "It Ain't Me, Babe."
Jeremiah called before the song ended. Shea was dead. His voice broke my heart. He didn't make it home from summer school. A car wreck. I don't remember very much about that phone call or the days leading up to the funeral. I just remember it was hot and humid.
I've been to two Indigo Girls shows. I always wonder if they will play "Romeo and Juliet." They never do. I suppose it's a pretty trite song -- not a hit. Last weekend I sat under these cottonwoods, thinking about my upcoming surgery, barely listening to the music. I kept thinking about dying and then I heard "Galileo." It's definitely not my favorite song, but it is on Rites of Passage. I remembered my senior year, how we kept going out to the cemetery. We decorated the tree by Shea's grave that Christmas. I remembered dancing with Shea in sixth grade, seeing him skateboard down my street when we were twelve.
Then I looked around at Annette who didn't know any of the words to the Indigo Girls, but still jumped up to look at the peacocks walking through the branches of the bosque. Kate who got excited about the possibility that maybe they would play "Strange Fire." And everyone who was dancing -- babies and adults.
Yeah, life is good
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Growing Up Blue in a Red State
Maybe it is a bit hyperbolic, but at this point I no longer care. This nation needs Senator Barack Obama. We just do. I will be honest I sobbed through last night's nomination speech. Roll your eyes. It's okay. I have never been and never will be one of those folks who said if Hillary won the nomination I would vote Republican. Sorry. In my mother's womb, during the bicentennial she voted Carter and I went along for the ride. Every four years I have chosen to stay on that ride. Nuestra familia has never been Republican. We are Texas Democrats surrounded by a state that has increasingly become solidly red. But every voting season, my mom would remind me why Democrats were our choice. We were mexicanas. We were working class. Republicans were not on our side. Even during the Reagan/Bush years when so many Democrats went Republican, my mom stayed blue -- Carter, Mondale, Dukakis -- she told anyone who listened about Reagan's refusal to support the UFW when he served as governor in CA. I couldn't wait until I could vote. In our small Texas town I was getting a taste of Republican family values. My own political ideology began to form.
Since I was a kid, my mother had idolized figures such as JFK, RFK, MLKJr. and Cesar Chavez. In high school, I had teachers who proudly told me that they had never voted for Kennedy. They had cast their votes for Nixon in the 1960 election. When they assigned presentations, they would tell me to sit down after I spoke, remarking that it was unbelievable a Mexican could do better than white students. When the 1994 gubernatorial election came, we were all introduced to George W. Bush, and he won. He had Mexican nieces and nephews his family called the little brown ones.
Years later when I got into graduate school at the University of Texas, professors at West Texas were in disbelief and one actually said it. A girl like you is going to have a hard time in grad school. You would be better-suited in a school that's not so prestigious. Maybe. Thank God, I didn't try for the Ivy League. Then after I got my MA at UT, I went back to Amarillo and taught ESL where the students were older men and women, and their children were still punished for speaking their language (Spanish, Lao, Vietnamese) in school. We even had a case where a mother was sent to court for child abuse because she spoke Spanish to her child in public.
How many times during this primary campaign did we hear all the code words for racism -- hard-working, traditional, blue-collar. At one point, David Gergen of CNN wondered aloud why Senator Hillary Clinton didn't refuse the votes of racists. At one point it was clear that some of the votes she was getting was simply based on race. She even said it herself. So why not reject those votes? Admit that the Democratic Party is changing. To me, that is what I see when it is possible that Mississippi, Georgia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Alabama, Louisiana, and Virginia might all go Democrat for the first time in decades and not because a white southerner is running, but because a person of color is running. It means the Democratic party is no longer a party of white southerners -- it's the party it has been evolving into for decades -- a party of diversity. This is what this primary season has shown me.
This is why I tear up almost every time I see Senator Barack Obama speak. Because for the first time I think we might have a leader who knows the experience of being a person of color in this country -- someone who knows what it means to have nothing expected of you and yet exceed everyone's highest expectations.
Since I was a kid, my mother had idolized figures such as JFK, RFK, MLKJr. and Cesar Chavez. In high school, I had teachers who proudly told me that they had never voted for Kennedy. They had cast their votes for Nixon in the 1960 election. When they assigned presentations, they would tell me to sit down after I spoke, remarking that it was unbelievable a Mexican could do better than white students. When the 1994 gubernatorial election came, we were all introduced to George W. Bush, and he won. He had Mexican nieces and nephews his family called the little brown ones.
Years later when I got into graduate school at the University of Texas, professors at West Texas were in disbelief and one actually said it. A girl like you is going to have a hard time in grad school. You would be better-suited in a school that's not so prestigious. Maybe. Thank God, I didn't try for the Ivy League. Then after I got my MA at UT, I went back to Amarillo and taught ESL where the students were older men and women, and their children were still punished for speaking their language (Spanish, Lao, Vietnamese) in school. We even had a case where a mother was sent to court for child abuse because she spoke Spanish to her child in public.
How many times during this primary campaign did we hear all the code words for racism -- hard-working, traditional, blue-collar. At one point, David Gergen of CNN wondered aloud why Senator Hillary Clinton didn't refuse the votes of racists. At one point it was clear that some of the votes she was getting was simply based on race. She even said it herself. So why not reject those votes? Admit that the Democratic Party is changing. To me, that is what I see when it is possible that Mississippi, Georgia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Alabama, Louisiana, and Virginia might all go Democrat for the first time in decades and not because a white southerner is running, but because a person of color is running. It means the Democratic party is no longer a party of white southerners -- it's the party it has been evolving into for decades -- a party of diversity. This is what this primary season has shown me.
This is why I tear up almost every time I see Senator Barack Obama speak. Because for the first time I think we might have a leader who knows the experience of being a person of color in this country -- someone who knows what it means to have nothing expected of you and yet exceed everyone's highest expectations.
Monday, June 2, 2008
Going Back to Tejas
When I first moved to Albuquerque in 2000, I was invited by the University to Texas to speak at the Americo Paredes Symposium. Of course I agreed. I was excited. When I was at UT, I would see Don Americo in the hallways of Calhoun and Parlin. He was in his early 80s, he walked with a cane. He always wore a sports jacket and a hat. He would smile at all the students. This was the man who wrote With His Pistol In His Hand (1958). This was the legend who faced down Walter Prescott Webb. This was the first Mexican American to graduate with a Ph.D. from the University of Texas. He is an icon. I turned in my Master's thesis in early May. I walked out of the watchtower and sat on its steps. Statues of Confederate icons decorate the southern mall -- Robert E. Lee, Jefferson Davis. It was a humid day. I sat there, looked toward our pink limestone Capitol. George W. Bush was still our governor. I had no idea he would be our president. The next day, Cinco de Mayo, I went to a professor's house for an end of the year party. I sat on the couch eating some fancy tapas when the whispers started making its way through the small crowd. Americo Paredes was dead. I left Austin a couple of days later. I didn't go back for two years.
When I did go back, Austin had a fancy, huge new airport. The Paredes symposium went brilliantly. My paper was received well. I got to sit on a panel with some of the best anthropologists in the field. Was I on top of my academic game? Absolutely. We ate at an amazing Mexican restaurant. I had been craving real Tejano fajitas since I had left Texas. We drank a lot of margaritas, but the entire 3 days I was in Austin, there was a specter with me. An invisible presence that would whisper into my ear as I fell into a deep sleep, Call them. Tap me on the shoulder when I went down to the hotel lobby for my breakfast bagel. They are only 30 minutes away. You don't know when you will be here again. But 3 days is not a lot of time. The conference organizers had packed it full of events. There were all my friends. I didn't know when I would see them again either. I would always see my Uncle James, Aunt Rosie, Christopher and Christy again. I called them every Christmas, and then every January 3 for my uncle's birthday. I would get to Austin sometime soon for them, and if not there would always be the next family reunion in Santa Fe. Uncle James always went to those. I didn't call. Trying to meet up would be way too complicated. It would stress me out.
A month later my relatively new boyfriend Hector was making me breakfast and coffee. I didn't drink coffee, but he did. So he always made me a cup. It was a Saturday. The cat Mia lounged on the corner of the bed. Hector watched cartoons. It surprised me that a 46-year-old man loved Bugs Bunny, but Hector did. He said it reminded him of growing up in El Paso. I could sort of understand it, I mean I still loved Schoolhouse Rock. I knew I had to call my apartment to check my machine. I hadn't been home since Thursday. Hector turned on the TV and I picked up the phone. I knew there would be some messages from my mom, there always were, but I wasn't expecting anything from my Uncle Max. This meant bad news. My dad's brothers never called me unless something bad had happened. Probably it was my grandpa. Maybe it was my dad. My heart fluttered around like birds in my chest, in my neck, in my mouth. I watched Hector laugh at the TV. Mia licked her front paws. I called Max. In just one sentence he told me. James died last night. I wanted to scream. I was just there. I wanted to run a knife across my arm, my leg, any part of my body until it hurt as badly as I did. Hector still laughed. I didn't know what Bugs was doing. The funeral is Monday. I nodded. Yeah, yeah I'll be there. And then I was off the phone, stunned into silence. Hector couldn't go to Texas with me. Work. Always work.
My dad, Uncle Tony and Grandpa picked me up at the airport. Their cowboy hats, Wranglers and muddy boots stuck out amidst all the glass, shiny tile and burnt orange. We were West Texans in Longhorn country. The truck was stifling. No air conditioning. Dad drank a beer. My uncle stopped for some whiskey. I had no paper to present this time. The watchtower loomed in the distance. The first time I came to Austin, uncle James took me to a restaurant on La Vaca Street. There was a long wait. He couldn't sit still. He paced back and forth for 15 minutes. All my dad's brother do that. My dad, too. None of us has any patience. Why didn't I call? I could still hear his laugh over the phone. Hey Patti! Que paso? My dad had never been to a single one of my graduations -- not high school, not college. I'm sure he had and has his reasons. But James and his family were always there. Why didn't I bother to drive half an hour four weeks ago?
Tony's tapping on the steering wheel. My dad and grandpa are crying. I want to be anywhere but stuck in traffic on 183. You know, Patti, she's right. I had gone with James, Aunt Rosie and my cousins on a summer road trip to El Paso. We were listening to Janis Joplin. Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose. I laughed. I was only eighteen and I loved the talks long road trips inspired. Plus I appreciated James for still treating me like I was part of his family even if my parents were divorced. It made me feel like maybe I hadn't done anything so wrong. And after I moved to Austin, it was great to have family there. Whenever I had a flat tire, he was there to fix it. Or whenever I was lonely I could just drive up to Cedar Park and there they were, all of them. How could I not have called?
Way before James and his family moved to Austin, before I ever went to college, I used to spend every summer with my grandparents and we would drive to Lubbock to visit all of my uncles while they were in college at Texas Tech. They were all so young then, in their twenties -- newlyweds, some dating.
I would get so excited to climb into my grandparents' Cadillac and make the two-hour drive from Friona to Lubbock. All these years later one of the things I remember most about driving into Lubbock is getting to James and Rosie's house. And always the same laugh. Hey Patti! Que paso?
When I did go back, Austin had a fancy, huge new airport. The Paredes symposium went brilliantly. My paper was received well. I got to sit on a panel with some of the best anthropologists in the field. Was I on top of my academic game? Absolutely. We ate at an amazing Mexican restaurant. I had been craving real Tejano fajitas since I had left Texas. We drank a lot of margaritas, but the entire 3 days I was in Austin, there was a specter with me. An invisible presence that would whisper into my ear as I fell into a deep sleep, Call them. Tap me on the shoulder when I went down to the hotel lobby for my breakfast bagel. They are only 30 minutes away. You don't know when you will be here again. But 3 days is not a lot of time. The conference organizers had packed it full of events. There were all my friends. I didn't know when I would see them again either. I would always see my Uncle James, Aunt Rosie, Christopher and Christy again. I called them every Christmas, and then every January 3 for my uncle's birthday. I would get to Austin sometime soon for them, and if not there would always be the next family reunion in Santa Fe. Uncle James always went to those. I didn't call. Trying to meet up would be way too complicated. It would stress me out.
A month later my relatively new boyfriend Hector was making me breakfast and coffee. I didn't drink coffee, but he did. So he always made me a cup. It was a Saturday. The cat Mia lounged on the corner of the bed. Hector watched cartoons. It surprised me that a 46-year-old man loved Bugs Bunny, but Hector did. He said it reminded him of growing up in El Paso. I could sort of understand it, I mean I still loved Schoolhouse Rock. I knew I had to call my apartment to check my machine. I hadn't been home since Thursday. Hector turned on the TV and I picked up the phone. I knew there would be some messages from my mom, there always were, but I wasn't expecting anything from my Uncle Max. This meant bad news. My dad's brothers never called me unless something bad had happened. Probably it was my grandpa. Maybe it was my dad. My heart fluttered around like birds in my chest, in my neck, in my mouth. I watched Hector laugh at the TV. Mia licked her front paws. I called Max. In just one sentence he told me. James died last night. I wanted to scream. I was just there. I wanted to run a knife across my arm, my leg, any part of my body until it hurt as badly as I did. Hector still laughed. I didn't know what Bugs was doing. The funeral is Monday. I nodded. Yeah, yeah I'll be there. And then I was off the phone, stunned into silence. Hector couldn't go to Texas with me. Work. Always work.
My dad, Uncle Tony and Grandpa picked me up at the airport. Their cowboy hats, Wranglers and muddy boots stuck out amidst all the glass, shiny tile and burnt orange. We were West Texans in Longhorn country. The truck was stifling. No air conditioning. Dad drank a beer. My uncle stopped for some whiskey. I had no paper to present this time. The watchtower loomed in the distance. The first time I came to Austin, uncle James took me to a restaurant on La Vaca Street. There was a long wait. He couldn't sit still. He paced back and forth for 15 minutes. All my dad's brother do that. My dad, too. None of us has any patience. Why didn't I call? I could still hear his laugh over the phone. Hey Patti! Que paso? My dad had never been to a single one of my graduations -- not high school, not college. I'm sure he had and has his reasons. But James and his family were always there. Why didn't I bother to drive half an hour four weeks ago?
Tony's tapping on the steering wheel. My dad and grandpa are crying. I want to be anywhere but stuck in traffic on 183. You know, Patti, she's right. I had gone with James, Aunt Rosie and my cousins on a summer road trip to El Paso. We were listening to Janis Joplin. Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose. I laughed. I was only eighteen and I loved the talks long road trips inspired. Plus I appreciated James for still treating me like I was part of his family even if my parents were divorced. It made me feel like maybe I hadn't done anything so wrong. And after I moved to Austin, it was great to have family there. Whenever I had a flat tire, he was there to fix it. Or whenever I was lonely I could just drive up to Cedar Park and there they were, all of them. How could I not have called?
Way before James and his family moved to Austin, before I ever went to college, I used to spend every summer with my grandparents and we would drive to Lubbock to visit all of my uncles while they were in college at Texas Tech. They were all so young then, in their twenties -- newlyweds, some dating.
I would get so excited to climb into my grandparents' Cadillac and make the two-hour drive from Friona to Lubbock. All these years later one of the things I remember most about driving into Lubbock is getting to James and Rosie's house. And always the same laugh. Hey Patti! Que paso?
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